Milkman Dead: Friend or Foe?

Would I befriend Milkman Dead? The question tempts me from both shoulders; one convincing me to go for it, and the other laughing at me for even asking. Author and Professor Toni Morrison makes this simple question difficult to answer within her 1977 coming-of-age novel Song of Solomon. A little off center, protagonist Milkman Dead avoids popularity and holds no more than a few, close friends. However, these relationships seem to slip through Milkman's fingers quicker than he can grasp them. Morrison admits, "He avoided commitment" (180). Although Dead's indirect characterization as unreliable waves like a red flag in terms of friendship, his ephemeral bonds most likely stem from experiencing his own parents' unhealthy marriage and lack of loyalty. Fear of commitment naturally adds a level of difficulty while forming friendships, but pathos evoked from Milkman's absence of consistent relationships prompts me to consider. However, Milkman's sister Lena eradicates all or any vestiges of my optimism when she refers to him as a '''selfish, hateful man''' (216). Lena's direct characterization of her brother as "selfish" and "hateful" forces me to take a step back and question any possible friendship between the two of us. Her vitriolic tone created by the harsh diction of "hateful" allows Morrison to expose the contempt felt by others towards Milkman, and his displeasing effect on people. Instead of using my own discretion to judge Dead's character and actions, his sister does so for me. Ultimately, I value her opinion because of her kinship, and her bitter opinion unnerves me. Just when the devil on my shoulder seems to have my attention, Morrison's "coming of age" theme prevails with Milkman's newfound moral fiber. Upon realization that his best friend belongs to a dangerous, secret society, Dead exposes '''I'm scared for you''' (161). Milkman's direct characterization as "scared" proves that he can show concern for others, and not just himself. His genuine and serious comment not only reveals his friend's stupidity, but Milkman's own ability to separate right from wrong. The protagonist serves as a synecdoche for those who express interest in a friend's well-being, transforming our friendship from the spark of an idea, to a definite possibility. Still, far from perfect, Morrison reveals "Shame stuck to his [Milkman's] skin" after making selfish decisions (209). Milkman clearly understands his responsibility within his wrongdoings, and his embarrassment indirectly characterizes him as morally keen. His shame only heightens my desire to befriend the confused fellow. Instead of resenting the protagonist, Morrison encourages me, as well as those who do not approve of his actions, to sympathize with Dead and embrace his imperfections. Finally, the little angel on my shoulder out sings the devil, and triumphs in my decision that Milkman would make a suitable friend. Most definitely not a "BFF," but a suitable friend indeed.